BESIDES THE NOBLE ART OF GETTING THINGS DONE,
THERE IS A NOBLER ART
OF LEAVING THINGS UNDONE.
When I was a new adult and out on my own for the first time, I somehow got it into my head that I needed to do everything and be everything and be good at it all. I was supposed to go to my job then come home and write and study for the graduate school entrance exam and keep the apartment clean and nicely decorated and cook good meals and be positive and spiritual and welcoming and social and smart and the best girlfriend (then wife) and daughter and...and...and....
I'm exhausted just writing that sentence. Not only because it's a long one, but also because once again I am experiencing that utterly overwhelmed and hopeless feeling of never living up to impossible standards. Standards I somehow set for myself based on long-held beliefs, things other people said and did, self help books, articles in magazines, TV shows, etc.
Next week, I've got a quote for you about finishing things. I know it seems odd after today's post, but together they sum up one of the most important things I've learned. Some things need to be finished. They need the time and effort and passion and creativity we possess. They deserve it. For me, writing and being a great partner to my husband are two of those things. For you, it might be something different. But the thing is, not everything needs or deserves that much of us. It took me a long time to understand that it doesn't mean I failed just because something didn't get 100% of me or everything didn't get done. I so wish I had known that back then. I think I would've enjoyed myself and my life more. But you know what? I know it now and that's what counts.
Do you - or did you - struggle with leaving things undone? If you're good at prioritizing what's important and what's not, how do you do it?