Monday, August 3, 2015

Motivational Monday


MY THERAPIST TOLD ME 
THE WAY TO ACHIEVE TRUE INNER PEACE 
IS TO FINISH WHAT I START.
SO FAR, I'VE FINISHED TWO BAGS OF M&MS 
AND A CHOCOLATE CAKE.
I FEEL BETTER ALREADY.
(Dave Barry)

I used to finish every book I started reading. Didn't matter if I wasn't enjoying it - I started it, I had to finish it. I'm like that with a lot of things in my life, and I believe that creates more stress than necessary. 

The sense of satisfaction when you finish a project is wonderful, no doubt. But I'm learning that stopping something I'm not enjoying, something that's not working for me, is wonderful in a different way. It's freeing. And it's a feeling I hope to experience more and more as I try new things, explore different creative outlets. 

This week, let's finish something we started. Or, let's not. The choice is ours. 

22 comments:

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Funny saying.
It's been years since I powered through a book I wasn't enjoying. I won't do that anymore. Life is too short.

M.J. Fifield said...

I think Dave Barry totally had it right.

I always finish every book I start. In the back of my mind, I keep telling myself that I'd probably be happier if I put it down in favor of a story I would enjoy, but I haven't yet taken that next step.

Sarah Foster said...

Finishing something can be hard, but choosing not to finish it is usually harder. I usually try to finish books even if I'm not enjoying them. With other things, though, it's not always as easy to keep going.

Misha Gerrick said...

Very true. My insistence on finishing what I started nearly destroyed my life when I picked the wrong course at University.

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

It's been years for me, too. I think a lot of that change comes with age. :)

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

It felt the weird the first few times I stopped reading, but now it's second nature.

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

Sometimes we do need to power through and finish what has to get done. Sometimes, we don't. Figuring which is which, figuring that out for ourselves, can take time.

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

Good for you for catching that!

Maria Zannini said...

I remember the first book I ever put down. I felt guilty at first, but then I realized how much time 'not finishing it' gave me back.

Anonymous said...

I figure life is too short to worry about finishing something we're not enjoying. Move on to something that makes you smile.

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

You got more time to read or to do something else you enjoy. :)

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

Sounds good!

Chrys Fey said...

I love chocolate but after all of that I think I'd be feeling worse. lol

I used to be the same way about finishing every book I was reading even if I hated it, but now I think, "Why bother? Why waste my time and enjoyment?"

I actually might be able to finish my current WIP this week...or next week. Soon!

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

I hear you about all that chocolate. :)

Good luck with your current WiP!

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

I used to do the same thing when it came to reading a book but like you, I've stopped doing that. I wish I could stop getting older. I don't like that.
Susan Says

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

Well, you know what they say - getting older beats the alternative.... :)

Lynda R Young as Elle Cardy said...

I'm a slow reader so I don't have the luxury to finish a book if I'm not enjoying it. There are far too many other books I want to read.

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

I'm a pretty fast reader, but I agree about so many other books I want to try/read. :)

Patricia Stoltey said...

I agree -- and the older I get, the less driven I am to finish anything I don't enjoy. Sometimes I get back to the project later, and sometimes not. Does it really matter? Not unless I'm on a paying job....

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

Sure, there are certain things we need to do, some things we have to finish, but I've spent too much time putting that attitude on everything, even when it wasn't the case, when it wasn't necessary.

emaginette said...

One of my very best days ever was when I finished my first story. I had written hundreds and they all stalled out. I didn't know what pushing on truly meant until I succeed with my short. A total rush.

Anna from Elements of Writing

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

There is absolutely a time, a place, a project for finishing. Accomplishing something important to us is an amazing feeling!