THE ESSENCE OF WISDOM
IS TO SEE THAT THERE IS ALWAYS A SOLUTION
ONCE YOU REALIZE THAT THE MIND,
WHICH SEEMS TO CREATE SO MUCH SUFFERING,
HAS INFINITE POTENTIAL TO CREATE FULFILLMENT INSTEAD.
I often tell my husband that if he could spend five minutes in my mind, he'd run away with his hands clasped over his ears, screaming.
A lot of people ask "What if?" questions, like: What if the house burns down? What if my spouse/children go out one day and never come back? What if that medical test comes back positive?
But I'm pretty sure there aren't too many of us who think this: What if someone - a woman, a child - bangs on my door, saying they need help, but I don't open the door because I'm afraid it's one of those urban legend hoaxes? What if the person gets hurt or dies because I didn't help? What if it was me or a loved one knocking on someone else's door? But then again, what if it really is a hoax, and when I open the door awful things happen to me and my family? (Welcome to my world. Is it any wonder I don't sleep well?)
Recently, though, I read somewhere about changing it up - instead of "What if this horrible thing happens?" ask "What if this good thing happens?"
What if the house burns down?
What if it doesn't?
What if the test result is positive, and I have a horrible disease?
What if the test result is negative, and I am healthy and strong?
This is not about being all Pollyanna-like and ignoring the bad stuff or not taking precautions. For me, it's about not going too far down the road to Crazytown. If I don't have facts to support the negative, scary "What if?" route, then what's to stop me from taking the positive "What if?" path? It's really weird the switch it throws in your brain.
This new way of thinking hasn't totally gotten rid of my monsters. After all, I want some of those guys to stick around to keep my stories sharp and scary. But it has helped put some of those fears in check, the ones that get in the way of the important "What if? questions, like...
What if we let ourselves write or create without being blocked? What if we practice our art without being afraid of what others might say? What if, this week, we free ourselves from at least some of those fears? What if...?