IT TAKES COURAGE
TO GROW UP
BECOME WHO YOU REALLY ARE.
(e. e. cummings)
Growing up, I was fortunate to have wonderful, traditional holiday gatherings full of food, family and fun. After I moved to Florida and then got married, my husband and I made a point to go up North every year to celebrate at least one of the usual winter holidays with family and friends. We did that for about 15 years. But when we bought our first house, we decided we wanted to do our own thing. Those first few years, when we didn't go up for holidays, were hard. We didn't want to disappoint or hurt anyone.
But my husband and I thought it was important for us to live our lives, including celebrating holidays, the way we want. And you know what? We love it. If we want to cook, we do. If we don't, we go out or order in. If we're totally Christmas-ed out by Christmas, we don't feel pressured to do everything, like decorate the entire house, etc. This past Thanksgiving, we ate our main meal at lunchtime then walked on the beach for awhile.
Some people might think it's weird or feel sorry for us but our holidays have become almost a symbol of how my husband and I want to live. Our views on a number of issues aren't always considered "the norm" or traditional, but we're growing more comfortable with that the older we get. We do try hard, though, to respect the way other people think and do things, and we just ask the same in return.
So, no matter how we spend the holidays, let's celebrate them with joyous spirits and grateful hearts. And let's live our lives the same way.