WE TEACH PEOPLE
HOW TO TREAT US.
(Dr. Phil McGraw)
I'm sorry to say I've let people believe it's okay to disrespect me by disrespecting my writing.
I've let people - those who you'd think would be supportive and interested - say things to me like "Oh, I just don't think to look at your blog." Or, when told about a published story or a current writing project, respond with, "Uh-huh, uh-huh. Right, right." Or consistently ask how my husband's work is going...then don't ask about my work, my writing.
What bothers me more than anything is the thought that I somehow gave these people permission to do this. Oh sure, my writing is on conversational par with the weather. Of course, my husband works a "real job" while I just twiddle my thumbs. How in the world did I let this happen?!
I know how. It's simple. I'm a wimp. I don't like confrontation. The first time someone disrespected my writing, I was too surprised to say anything...so I just let it go. And I kept letting it go.
I'm not going to go all She Hulk and start yelling at people. I can't make people respect me and what I do. I can't make them ask about my writing. I can't make them care. But I can shorten the frustrating conversations, shorten my responses to self-absorbed emails. I can take my energy elsewhere. I can pour it into projects that feed my soul, into people who I respect and who respect me, and into saving my sanity.
Let's make sure we teach people how to treat us - and our art - with respect. If you already do that, keep going strong! If you're starting out, take baby steps and know you are not alone....